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Hello everybody, this is Lois Lane Miami, and you are listening to the Purple Kool-Aid Podcast. Today, I wanna talk about unforgiving perfect people. These are people who believe they’re perfect or that they know everything, and they think that everyone else—especially people who don’t agree with them—are stupid, uninformed, uneducated, ignorant, or whatever you choose to call it. In other words, they think very highly of their opinions and believe their opinions are facts.

The funny thing about this is that I have learned the people who believe their opinions are facts typically have no explanation for such, no evidence, and they just think they know everything. So what prompted this particular podcast about unforgiving perfect people? I think I forgot to mention—they’re also unforgiving. Not only do they think they know everything or believe that they’re always right, but they also are unforgiving. If you are someone who has made a mistake in the past, or has been wrong in the past, and you are attempting to better yourself, correct your mistakes, or just be a better person in general, they are very unforgiving about that.

They have an attitude like, “You made a mistake, and how dare you!” as if they’re perfect, and you should pay for this mistake for eternity. Their attitude is almost as if you’re not allowed to change, grow, evolve, or become a better person. These people also have a lot of skeletons in their closets, and they’ve made mistakes and done things they’re not proud of, but they’re very good at hiding it because I have not met a human being yet who is perfect or who hasn’t done something that they should not have done or could have done better. But these people have been very savvy at hiding their imperfections and pointing their fingers at others.

One of those such people that I have listened to, and some of the things she has said I have agreed with, is Candace Owens. I am not a person who feels like you have to throw away the whole baby with the bathwater. I realize that no one is always right and no one is typically always wrong. And I don’t need everyone to be always right or always wrong for me to learn something from them. I feel that you can learn something from anyone, even if you feel like you’re smarter than them—which, let’s be real, a lot of people do—you can still learn from a person. And you should always be learning. Learning helps you grow, and it increases the amount of wisdom and knowledge you have. The more you listen and pay attention to others, the more you read, the more you observe, etc., etc., etc.

So, the unforgiving perfect person I’m referring to is Candace Owens. Yes, Candace Owens is unforgiving. Now, even though she’s an unforgiving perfect person, there are things about her that I admire. I admire the fact that she is very courageous; she does not back down. There are times when I believe it is good to be courageous and not back down if you firmly believe in something, you’ve researched it, and you have good reason to believe so. Or maybe even if you haven’t, if you firmly believe in something, it’s what you believe, then you have a right to believe it. But when you try to push your belief on other people, that’s when there is a problem. When you are simply putting people down just to be putting people down as if there is absolutely nothing about you that is not perfect, that, to me, is a very big problem.

So I came across this video, and I know I keep starting and stopping, but as I said, there are some of her views—and I’m talking about Candace Owens—that I do agree with, and there are others that I totally do not agree with. I’m going to be a little bit prejudiced in saying that I am happy to see a Black woman, a woman of color, or a minority—or just about any woman, as long as they aren’t harming people—become successful because it is difficult for women to break barriers, and it is even more difficult for minority women to break down barriers to become ultra-successful, famous, gain power, or be in any position where they have thousands, hundreds of thousands, or tens of thousands of people paying any attention whatsoever to what they have to say, whether those people agree with it or not. I like the fact that I am seeing more women, and especially more minority women, in positions of power as long as they don’t abuse that power because, no matter who you are, abusing power and harming people is not good—harming the environment, etc., etc., etc. You know the rest that goes with that. No matter who you are, if you are harmful, it is not good, and I think we can all agree on that. And even if we don’t, that’s one stand I’m sticking with: if you are a person who harms, you are not good, and you should not be in any position of power.

Right, anyway, so I was scrolling through my YouTube videos, and I saw a video of Candace Owens, and then I also saw Cardi B included in this video. I think I saw a picture of her or her talking, and then Candace Owens talking. I actually thought that they had done some type of interview together, but upon checking further, I found out that no, this was not an interview of the two of them. This was Candace Owens going in on Cardi B because Cardi B went in on Candace Owens, right? And then, as I looked even further, I found out that this had to do with the Sonia Macy situation. Sonya Massey was the Black woman who was gunned down in her living room and shot in the face by a police officer. That really, really bothered me, but I’m not gonna get into too much of that because today we’re talking about unforgiving perfect people.

So Cardi B was saying something to the tune of Candace Owens should not have made any comments at all about that situation in the way in which Candace made comments—that she probably should have just shown sympathy or empathy for the situation and just left it alone. Because Candace Owens always has something to say, and sometimes it is better to just not say anything or show empathy in some situations some of the time.

Now, of course, we all know Cardi B. Why do we know Cardi B? Because I am a former female rapper who did a little bit in the music business and had an album that went gold. We know that recording artists do not express themselves the same way that the average human being does. They are very passionate about the things they say because if they were not passionate about what they said, they would never become famous. This is who they are. And then Cardi B is loud, very expressive, and passionate. She also says things exactly how she wants to say them and doesn’t really care how she says them. However, I have also noticed that she seems to be a caring person who cares about what happens to people and seems to have a good heart.

Knowing the music business and knowing how far she has gotten, no matter what mistakes she has made or what situations she has been in, I also know that she is an intelligent woman because you have to be very savvy and intelligent to navigate your way to the top in the music business, the movie industry, and anything like that. You also have to be extremely savvy and intelligent to be nominated as a presidential candidate. You also have to be very savvy and intelligent to create the number of followers and listeners on a platform such as the one Candace Owens has created for herself and the following she has gained. You have to break down billions of barriers and gatekeepers when you are a woman of color. It is a monstrosity to become anyone in any position where people will listen to anything you have to say at all. So to me, all these women have done well for themselves, and the fact that they have achieved the amount of success that they have makes me happy.

Now, without needing to diagnose the situation—I’m not sure what diagnosing or clinical findings or probabilities needed to be figured out—but the fact of the matter is, there was an unarmed woman who was in her living room, who called the cops, and she was unable to defend herself and was shot in the face. So I really don’t care what the circumstances were in that situation; I feel that empathy is probably paramount or necessary, maybe.

So, Cardi B was upset and said something about that. Now, the funny thing is that if you listen to Cardi B’s response, at no point does she ever put Candace down. She never—and I’m sure there are a lot of things Cardi B probably doesn’t like about Candace—she never talked about her, she never said anything, she never threw shots at Candace. She simply said that maybe Candace probably should’ve just kept her damn mouth shut, and I agree; she probably should have. On the other hand, Candace Owens gets back on with a response. It was funny because it seemed like more than focusing on responding back to what Cardi B said or offering commentary, the main focus of her commentary—and her being Candace Owens—was where Cardi B came from, the fact that she used to be a stripper, what she’s going through, that she’s probably stupid, or that she isn’t intelligent, and how she feels sorry for her and that the music industry is just using her. All this ridiculous stuff, kind of insinuating that Cardi B is stupid. She insinuated it, and she said it.

Now, people have a habit of feeling like—and they like to feel like—because someone doesn’t have the education or isn’t as well-spoken as them, or doesn’t dress like them, walk like them, or talk like them, that this has anything to do with an amount of intelligence or level of intelligence. And I’m here to tell you, there’s something else—wait, that came from Prince! But there is something else. Sometimes I get off track. Intelligence is not, never has been, and never will be tied to upbringing. Knowledge comes from education, wisdom does not come from education, and intelligence does not come from education. The ability to survive does not come from education. These are things that people learn on their own. Now, you can learn to survive through some education, and “education” can be used loosely. You can definitely sit down and read a book on how to survive in the wild.

One person could have gone to Harvard and gotten a PhD, and the other could be doomed by certain circumstances, ended up babysitting and taking care of their siblings all their lives, living in the hood with little to no resources, and that person could actually be more intelligent than the person who went to Harvard University. This is due to a set of circumstances, their situation, and their environment. It has nothing to do with their intelligence. They can figure things out. Some people who have never had the opportunity to go to college are extremely intelligent. I know no one’s gonna wanna agree with this, and no one is going to like it, and yada yada yada—I really don’t care—but implying that Cardi B is stupid because of the way she talks and walks and because she is an entertainer is ridiculous. It’s totally ridiculous.

You have to be extremely savvy and intelligent, and you need to be a strategist. A strategist who plays chess or any type of game, or a person who holds any position of power—you are not going to achieve any level of success or any position of power without being strategic, having a strategy, having a blueprint, having a plan. Just because someone’s strategy was to be successful in the music business versus having a Harvard law degree or being a super Christian doesn’t mean they are not intelligent. Candace Owens has no evidence of Cardi B not being intelligent. We have no idea whether someone is using her or if she is using them to get what she wants. We’re just assuming that because she is a woman and because she is Black, she is naïve, which is funny because the same way that Candace Owens is looking at Cardi B is the same way that everyone is looking at Candace Owens, like she is naïve because she is a Black woman.

The other funny thing is Candace always going at Kamala Harris’s neck—and I’m probably saying her name wrong, and I do apologize if I am, so we’re gonna say Vice President Harris. The irony and hypocrisy of Candace Owens going at Vice President Harris’s neck is ridiculous because the same way that people are looking at her like a childless cat lady who is married to a white man that they have no respect for is the exact same way—whether she would like to acknowledge it or not—the exact same prejudices are being held against Candace Owens. But Candace Owens is choosing not to acknowledge who she is and the way that people are looking at her, and that’s okay. It’s okay because she’s focused. Sometimes we don’t acknowledge what’s going on around us—or I should say not what’s going on around us. She’s very aware of what’s going on around her, but she’s not acknowledging the negative. If she were to stop and acknowledge the negative, she would not stay focused. If she took those blinders off, she probably would not be able to achieve the amount of success and have the followers that she does. So, this is something that works for her.

Something that we need to realize is that different things work for different people, and that’s okay. Different strategies work for different people. But my problem with this is when people pretend like they’re perfect and they have the only strategy out there, and then they assume that everyone else is naïve. And when they go to fight back during a debate, the only thing they can talk about is that this person is a childish cat lady or that this person is ignorant or stupid because they were once a stripper.

Which brings me to another point. People will sit there and say, “Oh, this person isn’t shit because they used to be a drug dealer, they used to be a stripper, they got in trouble in high school—who do they think they are now, being successful and moving on from that?” And they don’t say it like that, they just go, “Oh, whenever someone who used to be a drug dealer or who used to be a stripper becomes famous or successful, or people gain some type of respect for them, here come these perfect, unforgiving people saying, ‘Oh, they used to be a stripper; don’t listen to them. They used to be a drug dealer; don’t listen to them,’” as if they’re mad that these people evolved. Why are you mad that somebody used to be a stripper and now they’re not? Why are you mad that somebody used to be a drug dealer and now they’re not? Would you have preferred that they stayed a stripper? Would you have preferred that they stayed a drug dealer? Would you have preferred that they kept getting in trouble and never tried to do better? I don’t understand this.

So, at one point, you were just a college student that nobody knew and nobody ever heard of. I am 100% sure that if you weren’t that savvy at hiding your mistakes, you made some mistakes too, and you did some things that you’re not proud of. Everyone has done something that they are not proud of. Why are people so unforgiving? Now, I’m not talking about people who are going out there and murdering people. Murder is not forgivable unless it was in self-defense. And I’m not gonna get too much into that because I can open up a whole can of worms. If someone’s trying to hurt you and you end up murdering them in self-defense, or to protect your mother or your sister, for protection, that’s a whole different thing.

But besides murderers, pedophiles, and rapists, are people not allowed to evolve and do better? Are they not? Do you want them to keep doing those things? And if you don’t, then why in the hell, every time somebody does better, the first thing you bring up about them in a debate or an argument is not the things they’re messing up now, or the things they’re not doing right, or in their positions of power or success—it’s the things from 10 years ago that they’ve grown out of, as if you’ve never grown out of anything, you’ve never evolved, you’ve never made a mistake. You are human; you have made mistakes. Everybody doesn’t know about all your mistakes because you weren’t important enough or relevant enough for people to know about your mistakes. Maybe you knew how to keep your mouth shut, maybe you were quiet, maybe no one was paying attention to you at all, but you made mistakes and you did stupid stuff and you messed up.

And now you’re doing better. So isn’t it great to be celebrated that someone who was in trouble, who was poor, who was messed up, who was a stripper—nobody grows up and says, “Oh yeah, I can’t wait to be a stripper.” I mean, well, they do until they figure out what the lifestyle is like. They’re like, “Oh, these chicks are making a whole lot of money,” and then they get into it and they’re like, “Damn, how can I get out of this?” And then people who are selling drugs—a lot of them were trying to get in a position so that they could buy everything for their families so they wouldn’t be in the hood anymore. And no, that’s not all of them, but a lot of people who are selling drugs and stripping would like to be doing other things, but their situations—maybe they didn’t have a two-parent household, maybe they weren’t able to go to college, maybe they were being abused, or they were taking care of their brothers and sisters, or they grew up on welfare. You know, some people just decide to do the wrong thing. But you have also done the wrong thing.

I haven’t met a perfect human being in the 57 years that I’ve been on this planet. And we won’t even count the first five years because I wouldn’t have known, but after five years of age, I listened, talked to, and observed. I’ve been observing people since I was five years old and watching them, and I have never met a perfect person yet. I am not perfect. Candace Owens, you are not perfect. Cardi B’s not perfect—she knows it; she has the courage to say, “I’m not perfect.” Vice President Harris is not perfect. None of these people are perfect. Donald Trump is not perfect—he knows that; he’s one person who will say, “I’m not perfect.” But you are also not perfect, and it is okay for people to not be perfect. It is okay for people to make mistakes. It is okay for people to not come from a squeaky-clean background with two-parent Christian mothers, parents, and guardians, and make mistakes and then change their lives and be better people. It is okay. And I’m sick and tired of people making it not okay.

So, if you’re going to go back and forth with someone, don’t take preschool jabs. That’s a preschool jab, saying somebody used to be a stripper is a preschool jab. Assuming that someone is not intelligent that you know absolutely nothing about and you’ve never given an IQ test to—you couldn’t survive half a day in their shoes, in the environment they grew up in, and become as successful on the type of platform they have, and have gone through the things that they went through. You couldn’t make it. And it doesn’t matter who is worth more money, who is doing better, and who has a more squeaky-clean background, because every person that I have met who was an unforgiving perfect person—if you go in their house and you open up their closet, the skeletons…

And that’s all I have to say on that today. Thank you for tuning in to Lois Lane Miami, on the Purple Kool-Aid Podcast. This was Unforgiving Perfect People. You can hear more on Spotify, on Apple Podcasts, on iHeartRadio, or you can go to my website, www.purplekoolaid.com, where you can find all my episodes. Please share, like. You can also find me on YouTube, The Purple Kool-Aid Podcast. Thank you so much for listening, and have a great rest of your week.